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I Can’t Catch a Break and It’s All THEIR Fault!

Carol Dickson-Carr — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 12:18:47 +0000

You know the type: “They’re just lucky!” they say. “Life dealt me a bad hand.”

Says who?

If you are perpetually stuck in inertia because the stars just don’t seem to be aligned for you in particular, you might want to check your perception. Or hey, you might know someone who continuously shows up that way even if it doesn’t apply to you.

Draining, isn’t it?

Look: I’m not unsympathetic to those who get stuck–heck, I get stuck at times; I’m certainly not unfamiliar with self-pity, self-doubt, grumpiness [Really, just insert any garden variety “low vibration” emotion and I could testify!].

And even in the midst of my internal drama, I know it will pass. I use the tools available to me so I don’t STAY there. AND, I always take responsibility for my action (or inaction as the case may be).

When I asked Twitterverse the above question (take this informal assessment to see where you stand), I got the following feedback:

From Stephen Carter AKA @TheHomeSavor: Listen to the story, identify why they are the way they are, Grab them by the arm, and show them that other options exist… http://www.homesavors.com/
From Beverly Jackson AKA @drbev: External locus of control people are living life while being outside of their bodies. Denial like ignorance is time consuming. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/drbev
From Karen McMillan AKA @LifeCoachKaren: Breathe. Don’t take it personally. Remember, it’s about their stuff–not yours. Give love. http://www.kdmcmillan.com/

We’re in the midst of an Economic Catharsis, and if you or someone you know is allowing their skills, gifts, and talents to remain a secret because of the wrong mindset, a lot is being left on the table (not just money). Something to think about.

Since your locus of control tends to determine your outlook on life–regardless of your circumstances, you can see that it is much healthier to have an internal locus of control. If you have an internal LOC, it will help you in other areas of your life–not just in business. Own your “stuff”, then use the tools available to you to move forward when your “stuff” feels a bit too overwhelming.

If you want to know the tools I use to move out of inertia, just ask me in the comments section!

If you want to share the tools you use, please list them in the comments section!